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We split this problem into two cases: A) The number of ways that men can shake hands with other men B) The number of ways that the men can shake hands with the other women (excluding their spouse). A) Since there are $13$ men, the number of handshakes between only men is $\frac{13\cdot 12}{2}=78$. B) Since there are $13$ men and $12$ women (excluding each man's spouse), there are $13\cdot 12=156$ ways. Adding this up, we get $156+78=234$, so the answer is $\boxed{234}$